Thinking from the end, this is the spirit in which  I bring these offerings,
not to "help", but rather to jointly participate in learning from difference as we navigate change together.
I agree with Lilla Watson in that :

“If you have come here to help me,
you are wasting your time.
But if you have come because your liberation
is bound up with mine,
then let us work together.”

Attribution and factoids:
This quote is often attributed to Lilla Watson during a speech given at the 1985 United Nation Decade for Women Conference in Nairobi. It would seem, however, that she prefers it to be attributed to
Aboriginal activists group, Queensland, 1970s.
Born in 1940, Lila Watson is an indigenous Australian or murri visual artist, activist and academic
working in the field of Women's issues and Aborignal epistemology.